Inner Strength-Part 4

When I talk about “Inner Strength” I am referring to a combination of mental, emotional and spiritual strength. Each of these play such an integral part of making up how we feel, the decisions we make and the outcomes we achieve. These strengths are developed and strengthened based on our values. To define values in a simple way, they are those beliefs that guide our thoughts and actions. They define who we are and what we stand for. Understanding our values at the core of developing Inner Strength.

The key is to find values that you believe in and know that no matter what, you can maintain through any situation.

  • Values are one of the most important things that we carry with us throughout our life. They are what truly define us. The best part about values is that each person defines them for themselves. The problem comes when people allow for their values to be influenced in a negative way. We have seen many examples of what happens when people, leaders and organizations let their values slip.
  • Defining your values will be one of the most important things you will ever do. You need to take a deep look into your inner self to know what it is you stand for. Then, you must be sure that those values are immovable. You must stay true to them no matter what the situation is. This can be hard and there are going to be times when your values are challenged. Inner strength comes when you overcome the temptation to put your values aside. You become stronger each time you keep your values intact. Whether you know it or not, people are watching to see who you are based on your decisions. It won’t really matter what you say if are not true to who you are.
  • Don’t let the world define your values. This may sound like common sense but look at how much social media influences you, me and all those around us. Are you clicking the “Like” button because others who are popular clicked it? Are you posting things you have no interest in but know it will cause contention, pain and other negative emotions? How would people define you based on your social media presence? When you have defined your values, then live them. This is especially true when using technology. Let others see this and not some fake or “other you.” You control this and it starts with knowing your values.
  • So don’t compromise, be strong, be true. When you have strong values, you can provide true value and that is when you will see noticeable improvement in your Inner Strength.

    You are a hero!

    How are you going to develop values that can withstand any storm?

    Inner Strength-Part 3

    Be Positive.

    Two words that we probably hear on a daily basis and yet many find this to be a difficult task. It seems that with all of today’s modern medicine to help those who may suffer from anxiety, depression or other mental illness that being positive is as easy as popping a pill. If that were the case, we would live in a much happier place.

    The truth is, no matter what our situation is, we have a decision to make each day we live whether to be positive or not. I have heard others say that we should embrace our trials or challenges and although I agree, we are human and should feel as though we can express those emotions. However, allowing those emotions to continue on can feed into thoughts of despair, negativity, hopelessness and many more draining feelings. The ability to transition your thoughts to those of positivity will help you in so many ways.

    We need to try and avoid situations that could cause us any type of emotional harm but there must be that realization that things happen. It is when those situations take place that we must have the inner strength to find some way to be positive. We become what we think. If we spend our days being negative, we will become negative. If we surround ourselves with naysayers and negative people, it will influence who we are, the decisions we make and how we react. Being positive is the key.

    Being positive attracts and influences others in many useful ways. People in general love to be around people who look to the future with hope and anticipation. The majority of great motivational speakers create an environment where people feel their positive energy and then have a desire to take action in their life. It is that positive feeling that creates a sense of wanting to accomplish our goals. Thus, there is a direct correlation between being positive and accomplishing your goals. When you can find the inner strength to be positive, you will see your world become brighter and you will give yourself the chance to reach your full potential.

    Finally, think about how social media influences your emotions. This goes for what you post and comment to what you view and like. Why do we allow ourselves to use/engage with social media in negative ways? How does comparing ourselves help us be positive? How does making a rude or hurtful comment create good feelings? The simple answer…they don’t. You can control how you use social media.

    Let’s find ways to be more positive. Doing so will bring so much more happiness, peace, energy and compassion into our lives. Being positive makes out inner self stronger, we feel more empowered, we are more optimistic about the future and we feel more in control of our life.

    How can you be positive? How can you help others to be positive?

    Be A Hero!

    Join the I Quit Movement

    I Quit!

    That’s right, I quit, and here’s why.

    Because…

    • True happiness is worth it
    • Anxiety, depression, feeling alone are real but won’t control me
    • Doing hard things will always be required
    • Family must come first
    • Internal peace is more important than worldly recognition
    • Talent and skill should define us not what others say
    • Ethics and values can never be compromised
    • Finding the good in others helps your own outlook
    • Service must replace selfishness
    • Good friends are a must have
    • Time is precious and must be used wisely

    That is why I Quit. I quit comparing my life with others. I quit allwoing trials to define me. I quit thinking about what could have been. I quit waiting for others to see my value. I quit judging others. I quit being a victim of my circumstances. I quit using social media as a crutch to blame my mental health challenges. I quit feeling/thinking this world would be better off without me. I quit hurting myself whether it be physically, mentally or spiritually.

    It can be so easy to fall into the trap of negativity, self-pity and even depression when life is not going how you planned. The tornado of frustration can take us to dark places which will influence almost all aspects of our life. When this happens the statement misery loves company becomes all too real. There is only one way to turn things around and that is to make a decision to change then take the action to quit what has led you down that unhappy path.

    In all honesty, this change may need to include mental health professionals. Let me state this as clearly as I can, it is okay to get help, it can be necessary. We are human and as such we can often be our greatest roadblock to change. This is especially true when it comes to our mental health. There is absolutely nothing wrong asking for help. With help comes hope.

    We were not put on this earth to live an unhappy and unfulfilling life. I believe we were sent to be happy. I believe that our strengths were given to us in order to help others. I believe we all will need help. I also believe that we become happy when we focus on loving ourselves, learning, loving others, developing our strengths, serving, believing and caring. Those are hard to do when we allow tough times take over our life and use our weaknesses as our default.

    Being happy should be a habit we instill in our lives. Being happy is truly a strength. We deserve to have peace, joy and hope. You and I have great value on this earth. This value is to family, friends, pets, teachers, colleagues, teammates, roommates, etc. Never underestimate the strength that comes from your ability to change your life.

    Always know that you matter and people care.

    We’ve Got This,

    Seth