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At some point in our lives we find the need to change. This change can come in many different shapes and sizes. The reasons for change may include: for personal reasons, for someone else, because of a significant life event, to motivate others, to be an example, forced to and many others.
The word change can create a variety of emotions. Those emotions are what really impact whether change will occur. If we are forced to change, it can be difficult to accept. We may feel frustrated, angry, powerless, scared, fearful and other negative feelings. These feelings are often the result of having to be reactive to change.
On the flip side, when we have the choice to change, we my feel emotions such as excitement, energy, empowered, peaceful, happy and other positive feelings. These feelings are what often drive us to reach our goals and make real, sustainable change.
Although the word gets used most often, it is important to understand other words that can mean change. The reason being is that want to be able to identify when we are making progress towards our goal that include change.
Synonyms for change
When we hear or read “Change Ahead” more often than not the focus is referring to a physical change. It means someone is about to embark on making important changes in their life that will have positive and lasting impacts. When we know that someone is striving to achieve these types of goals, we should find ways to be supportive. These types of changes can often be the toughest and the easiest to give-up on which is why support is needed.
I hope you will be proactive in supporting others who are willing and working towards making positive changes in their life. You never know if your support and encouragement might be exactly what they needed to keep them going.
This may be a pretty big assumption but I will make it anyway, we will have times where we will face major adversity in our lives. This adversity will come as a result of losing ones job, death of a family member, financial shortfalls, marriage problems and thousands of others ways. We have also probably all heard that we need to be strong during those times. Well guess what? It’s true.
To make a quick analogy I will put it this way because I am one who actually makes this statement quite often, “if it’s good for you it probably doesn’t test good.” Now, I know this is not 100% true but stay with me on this. Let’s say it does not taste good but it does make you healthier, it does give you energy to exercise, it does provide the right nutrients to help your muscles recover and so on. So what is actually happening is while I am “forcing” myself to eat this healthy food (adversity), I am actually providing much needed strength to my body.
So it finding strength in times of adversity is so critical, how does one go about doing it? Here are some quick ways that have helped me:
- Take a step back and see the bigger picture. Too many times when a challenge or trial enters our life we react in ways that can often make things worse. It is crucial to be able to try and see the challenge within a larger picture. This will help provide perspective and can even help you to see that maybe things are not as bad as they have initially appeared.
- Be positive. There is a difference between being positive and happy. Being positive means you are focused on seeing the good in things and pushing forward. Being positive means you refuse to sit and talk about all the bad things that led to this specific trial or adversity. Being positive means you put into action a plan to make things better.
- Find a go to partner. You will need to talk with someone. This person maybe different based on the type of challenge but be sure you have a trusted person you can speak with. It maybe your wife, a close friend, a past boss, a sibling or your church leaders. The key is, you need to find someone so you do not feel so alone.
- Note the lessons learned. Be sure and grab a pen and paper and write down your feelings. Within those writings, be sure and note what you have learned about the adversity you are facing. This can be so helpful as there will be times in the future where you will face a similar challenge or someone you know will. These writings can be key in helping you or them through the situation.
I will be the first to admit that finding strength during times of adversity is actually a lot easier to say than do. However, I have found that there is so much peace, comfort and joy that comes as I apply the four points above. There is nothing wrong when we are faced with adversity, in fact it is a sign we are normal.
As crazy as this may sound, I am thankful for those times in my life when I struggle as it brings me to my knees and reminds me that I am human. It reminds me to swallow my pride and look to others for support. I will always be thankful for those who have been there for me and hope I am someone that others can lean in their times of need. Leaders find way to turn times of challenge into learning and teaching opportunities. Most likely because this is an area where more people can relate unfortunately.
One last thought, as you learn to find strength in times of adversity, you will feel more empowered When you feel empowered, there are no limits to what you can achieve so do all you can to find that strength so you can feel empowered.
Now, it is time to pump some adversity.