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Welcome to 2020.

Over the past four weeks there is no doubt that one of the hottest topics talked about is “New Years Resolutions.” With this comes the talk of goals and dreams. People get influenced very quickly by what they read, hear and see. One of the biggest problems is that people often lose sight of these good intentioned goals just about as fast as they made the goals.

Vague GoalsIn all transparency and honesty, I have fallen into this trap. At the end of of the year I have found myself scrambling to set some goals for the next year. In my rush I would set vague goals. In setting vague goals rather than setting real, quality goals I was not as invested and committed to those goals. This made it very easy for me to lose sight and often times completely abandoned those goals. This brought feelings of negativity, frustration, sadness and even failure. None of these are very motivating feelings.

This past year I made a very deliberate effort to really think about the goals I wanted to accomplish over the next year. In taking my time I came across something was such a wonderful “Aha” moment for me. I decided to break-up my goals into two categories: the first category I labeled “Activity Goals” and the other one I labeled “Result Goals.” The reason I did this was I wanted to be sure connected specific activities I wanted to work on to real results. Just in completing this process I felt more excited and motivated working on my goals.

GoalsThere is one other important thing I did this time that I have done on a very limited basis previously and that was share some of my specific goals with those who I felt could help me accomplish my goals.

So now the question is, what are specific goals you are wanting to accomplish over the next 3, 6, 9 and 12 months? What activities will you need to do to accomplish your goals? What are your “Result Goals”?

Heroes are Heroes because the are always developing themselves.

Go Be A Hero!

Let’s Start With “Why”

Time to get real. Why do you do the things you do? Take a minute to ponder that question and the responses that come to your head and heart.

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Some Why Questions

Why did you get up this morning? Why are you reading this blog? Why didn’t you say “Hi” to the person you walked by in the hall? Why did you “comment” on that one Instagram Post? Why did click the “Like” button on that Tik Tok but not that other one? Why did you leave her/him on read on Snapchat for the entire day? Why did you kiss that boy/girl? Why are talking bad about that person or group of people? Why didn’t you give your best effort today? Why did you lie to your friends about what happened last weekend?

Okay, I think you get the picture, the question why should hopefully open our eyes. Depending on how we answer the questions above and many others like it each day we may or may not like what we see. So I return to the initial question I posed, Why do you do the things you do?

In short we can respond by simply saying that’s just who I am. Not a bad place to start but it is time we go a little deeper. To do this we must ask the next obvious question which is who am I and why am I this way? The answers to these questions will be as numerous as there are people in the world but there will be one common thing, our experiences are what shape our lives.

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Sure, it is much easier for me to say that now when I have had many experiences throughout my life that have shaped me but I wish I would have realized this as a teenager. There is no doubt had I made this connection, I would have been nicer to others, more aware of those in need around me, more respectful to my parents, siblings and friends, not so caught up on who is dating who and why am I single. I would have made sure others felt included all the time. I would have ensured that no one group of students was not so influential on my own decisions. The truth is, I would have made better decisions.

I have felt very strongly that teenagers especially right now need to know that every decision they make has an impact, it will be for good or not so good. That impact will be felt by them and others either directly or indirectly. Having been closely involved with so many teens throughout my life but especially over the past 3 years I can see with all my heart that they are amazing. They have so much potential and talent. They have hearts that are caring. The problem is that many have been influenced by those who do not make the best decisions. They have allowed popularity and clout to fog their sight. For so many they would respond to the question why do I the things I do with a simple, because my friends do it.

For the parents and adults who have influence on teenagers, please let them know how much you love them, care about them and that they are amazing. Do this often.

For the teens who are reading this, you MUST take responsibility now for the decisions you make because they are influencing what you do everyday. Remember, we don’t get to pick the rewards and/or consequences of our decisions, thus we must make it a pattern in our life to make good decisions, even when others don’t.

Be a leader.

Be an example.

BE A HERO!

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The Influencers In Our Life

Who are the people who have influenced you, do influence and/or you want to influence you? What are the reasons and how are they influencing you?

I often think of these questions because I firmly believe that who we are is shaped in large part by those who influence us. The majority of the time we can pick and choose who influences us but there may be other times when we have less control. The key is to identify the reasons someone might influence you.Growing-Influencers

In a recent article titled “What is an influencer?” found at https://influencermarketinghub.com/what-is-an-influencer/, the following caught my eye:

“An influencer is an individual who has the power to affect purchase decisions of others because of his/her authority, knowledge, position or relationship with his/her audience.”

The article then states later in the article different categories of influencers. The reason this article caught my eye is how sad it really is to see how our world and society have allowed such worldly things and people to have such an impact on our lives. I see it on a daily basis just how powerful these worldly influencers have on our youth. They want whatever the popular social media influencers have. They do things simply for the “Like” even if it means posting things that may not be a good representation of who they are, wow, that is powerful influence.

I can remember the influence as a teen from some of my leaders in church and teachers at school. They really reached out to me and other teens to be sure we were okay. They cared about us, they served us, they made sure we had activities to participate in and they loved us. I get chills today thinking of the time and effort they took out of their lives to help me. I was truly touched and influenced by them and their actions.

I learned trust, honor, ethics, dedication, integrity, service, unconditional love, and many other characteristics from these leaders.

I feel fortunate to have had many great influencers in my life both personally and professionally. They have helped to shape who I am today and will be tomorrow. There is not a day that goes by that I am not thankful to each one of them for their influence in my life. These influencers include my wife, my three boys, parents, siblings, extended family, school teachers, coaches, friends, teammates, co-workers and more.

We must know who is truly influencing our lives. For teenagers, this is especially important. You may not think a friend or group of friends has that much influence but take a look at decisions you have made over the past week or month. Are there things you did that you feel brought you down in some way? What was the situation around that decision? You may be surprised just how influential others are. The key is to get people who can influence your life in a positive way. We not only need this but honestly deserve it. There are so many great people in your life but you may not see them.

So today, take some time to think of the influencers in your life. Who are they? What is their influence on you and how you live your life?  What have you learned from them? There is a natural energy that comes from thinking of those that have an impact on our life.

One last thing, whether you know it or not, you are an influencer. What type of influence are you having on others?

Heroes Influence but they know who their influencers are.

Let your influence be one of inspiration.

I absolutely love this quote:

Various influences – our parents, other family members, teachers, books we’ve read, discussions we’ve had, life experiences – all merge together to form our core values.”  Maya Green