Inner Strength-Part 4

When I talk about “Inner Strength” I am referring to a combination of mental, emotional and spiritual strength. Each of these play such an integral part of making up how we feel, the decisions we make and the outcomes we achieve. These strengths are developed and strengthened based on our values. To define values in a simple way, they are those beliefs that guide our thoughts and actions. They define who we are and what we stand for. Understanding our values at the core of developing Inner Strength.

The key is to find values that you believe in and know that no matter what, you can maintain through any situation.

  • Values are one of the most important things that we carry with us throughout our life. They are what truly define us. The best part about values is that each person defines them for themselves. The problem comes when people allow for their values to be influenced in a negative way. We have seen many examples of what happens when people, leaders and organizations let their values slip.
  • Defining your values will be one of the most important things you will ever do. You need to take a deep look into your inner self to know what it is you stand for. Then, you must be sure that those values are immovable. You must stay true to them no matter what the situation is. This can be hard and there are going to be times when your values are challenged. Inner strength comes when you overcome the temptation to put your values aside. You become stronger each time you keep your values intact. Whether you know it or not, people are watching to see who you are based on your decisions. It won’t really matter what you say if are not true to who you are.
  • Don’t let the world define your values. This may sound like common sense but look at how much social media influences you, me and all those around us. Are you clicking the “Like” button because others who are popular clicked it? Are you posting things you have no interest in but know it will cause contention, pain and other negative emotions? How would people define you based on your social media presence? When you have defined your values, then live them. This is especially true when using technology. Let others see this and not some fake or “other you.” You control this and it starts with knowing your values.
  • So don’t compromise, be strong, be true. When you have strong values, you can provide true value and that is when you will see noticeable improvement in your Inner Strength.

    You are a hero!

    How are you going to develop values that can withstand any storm?

    Inner Strength-Part 3

    Be Positive.

    Two words that we probably hear on a daily basis and yet many find this to be a difficult task. It seems that with all of today’s modern medicine to help those who may suffer from anxiety, depression or other mental illness that being positive is as easy as popping a pill. If that were the case, we would live in a much happier place.

    The truth is, no matter what our situation is, we have a decision to make each day we live whether to be positive or not. I have heard others say that we should embrace our trials or challenges and although I agree, we are human and should feel as though we can express those emotions. However, allowing those emotions to continue on can feed into thoughts of despair, negativity, hopelessness and many more draining feelings. The ability to transition your thoughts to those of positivity will help you in so many ways.

    We need to try and avoid situations that could cause us any type of emotional harm but there must be that realization that things happen. It is when those situations take place that we must have the inner strength to find some way to be positive. We become what we think. If we spend our days being negative, we will become negative. If we surround ourselves with naysayers and negative people, it will influence who we are, the decisions we make and how we react. Being positive is the key.

    Being positive attracts and influences others in many useful ways. People in general love to be around people who look to the future with hope and anticipation. The majority of great motivational speakers create an environment where people feel their positive energy and then have a desire to take action in their life. It is that positive feeling that creates a sense of wanting to accomplish our goals. Thus, there is a direct correlation between being positive and accomplishing your goals. When you can find the inner strength to be positive, you will see your world become brighter and you will give yourself the chance to reach your full potential.

    Finally, think about how social media influences your emotions. This goes for what you post and comment to what you view and like. Why do we allow ourselves to use/engage with social media in negative ways? How does comparing ourselves help us be positive? How does making a rude or hurtful comment create good feelings? The simple answer…they don’t. You can control how you use social media.

    Let’s find ways to be more positive. Doing so will bring so much more happiness, peace, energy and compassion into our lives. Being positive makes out inner self stronger, we feel more empowered, we are more optimistic about the future and we feel more in control of our life.

    How can you be positive? How can you help others to be positive?

    Be A Hero!

    Inner Strength Part 2

    Now more than ever mental health can be one of the greatest challenges a teenager encounters. It can come in the form of anxiety, depression, loneliness and isolation. The ability to develop an inner strength that allows us to move forward in a way that shows courage, determination and faith will help make life manageable and ultimately enjoyable. Lets take a look at the second way to help develop inner strength.

    2. Only look back to learn, not to live

    The purpose of a rear view mirror is simply to see what is behind us, it won’t ever show you what is ahead of you. You won’t get from point A to point B with the car in Drive using just your rear view mirror. labimg_640_1_rear_view_mirror.jpg

    This is just like those times of trials and challenges in our life, we can’t allow ourselves to only focus on what has happened in the past, we must look to the future in order to be able to move forward. The key about what has happened is to learn those things that can help make you and others stronger.

    You will always be an example to someone, especially during tough times. People always area amazed when a person goes through a traumatic experience in their life and they seem to somehow smile and take the good from the situation.

    Does it mean that they did not feel pain, loss, frustration, anger, sadness, anxiety, depression? No, not at all, on the contrary, they may have felt all of these emotions but their inner strength has allowed them to focus on those values they hold so dear and find a way to move forward, to learn and to live. The key is finding a way to separate your emotions from your actions. I will share more on this in a future post.

    As a youth, you will often have many mixed messages being sent to  you from many different sources. This confusion often causes poor decisions to be made. As you learn to develop your inner strength by looking to the future with hope, passion, determination and openness, you will know exactly what it means to only look back to learn, not to live.

    You Are A Hero!

    How can you take this concept of only looking back to learn, not to live?