For youth today the ability to overcome trials is becoming a more regular occurrence. These trials or challenges can be as simple as not making sports team or the lead role in a play to losing a loved one or finding out that a terminal disease has been discovered in close friend. It can also be having to deal with bullying, either directly or indirectly. Our ability to develop an inner strength that allows us to move forward in a way that shows courage, determination and faith will help make life manageable and ultimately enjoyable. There are many ways for one to develop inner strength; over the next couple of weeks I will share with you the seven that have helped me throughout my life, especially while a youth.
2. Only look back to learn, not to live
The purpose of a rear view mirror is simply to see what is behind us, it won’t ever show you what is ahead of you. You could not get from point A to point B with the car in Drive using just your rear view mirror.
This is just like those times of trials and challenges in our life, we can’t allow ourselves to only focus on what has happened in the past, we must look to the future in order to be able to move forward. The key about what has happened is to learn those things that can help make you and others stronger.
You will always be an example to someone, especially during tough times. People always area amazed when a person goes through a traumatic experience in their life and they seem to somehow smile and take the good from the situation.
Does it mean that they did not feel pain, loss, frustration, anger, sadness, depression? No, not at all, on the contrary, they may have felt all of these emotions but their inner strength allowed them to focus on those values they hold so dear and find a way to move forward, to learn and to live.
Youth can often have many mixed messages being sent to them from many sources. This confusion often causes poor decisions to be made. As you learn to develop your inner strength by looking to the future with hope, passion, determination and openness, you will know exactly what it means to only look back to learn, not to live.
You Are A Hero!
How can you take this concept of only looking back to learn, not to live?