Now more than ever mental health can be one of the greatest challenges a teenager encounters. It can come in the form of anxiety, depression, loneliness and isolation. The ability to develop an inner strength that allows us to move forward in a way that shows courage, determination and faith will help make life manageable and ultimately enjoyable. Lets take a look at the second way to help develop inner strength.
2. Only look back to learn, not to live
The purpose of a rear view mirror is simply to see what is behind us, it won’t ever show you what is ahead of you. You won’t get from point A to point B with the car in Drive using just your rear view mirror.
This is just like those times of trials and challenges in our life, we can’t allow ourselves to only focus on what has happened in the past, we must look to the future in order to be able to move forward. The key about what has happened is to learn those things that can help make you and others stronger.
You will always be an example to someone, especially during tough times. People always area amazed when a person goes through a traumatic experience in their life and they seem to somehow smile and take the good from the situation.
Does it mean that they did not feel pain, loss, frustration, anger, sadness, anxiety, depression? No, not at all, on the contrary, they may have felt all of these emotions but their inner strength has allowed them to focus on those values they hold so dear and find a way to move forward, to learn and to live. The key is finding a way to separate your emotions from your actions. I will share more on this in a future post.
As a youth, you will often have many mixed messages being sent to you from many different sources. This confusion often causes poor decisions to be made. As you learn to develop your inner strength by looking to the future with hope, passion, determination and openness, you will know exactly what it means to only look back to learn, not to live.
You Are A Hero!
How can you take this concept of only looking back to learn, not to live?
For young people today the ability to overcome trials is becoming a more regular occurrence. These trials or challenges can be as simple as not making a sports team, the lead role in a play, not getting to asked to a dance, seeing others posts things on social media that may offend or even hurt you to losing a loved one or having to deal with constant bullying at school.
Our ability to develop an inner strength that allows us to move forward in a way that shows courage, determination and faith will help make life manageable and ultimately enjoyable. There are many ways for one to develop inner strength; over the next couple of weeks I will share with you the seven that have helped me throughout my life, especially while a youth.
- Understand that challenges and trials WILL happen in your life
It is important to realize and accept the fact that no matter who we are and no matter what our background is, we will face times in our life that test our inner strength. Some will go through more than others will, is it fair? I guess it depends how you look at it. The important thing here is to realize that you will be faced with times in your life where things just seem almost too overwhelming.
I have found that during these times, we are at our most humbling state which allows us to learn, as long as we are prepared. When we are teachable, great things can happen, personal confidence can grow and our inner strength can provide us with the drive to move forward. As we develop this important understanding and accept this reality, trials can become one of the greatest teachings tool ever created. Without this understanding on the other hand can lead to frustration, anxiety, depression, anger, bitterness, self-harm, sadness and despair. I know from feeling all of those at different times in my life, I had inner weakness, not strength. I was unable to function properly and life just seemed to be worthless.
I am a firm believer that we will never be given a trial or challenge in our life we cannot handle. Our task is to find the inner strength to overcome, learn and move forward. As we do this, we will generate happiness in our life. So the next time you are being bullied at school, or made fun of by others, focus on your inner strength, remind yourself that you can and must rise above it. As you face this head-on, change happens, not just to you but often those who are creating the challenge. I have seen it personally in my own life.
Heroes understand that challenges and trials will happen in their life but they develop the inner strength to be better because of those.
You Are A Hero!
So, have you been able to develop this understanding that we will face challenges and trials in our life? How?